{"id":574,"date":"2024-08-24T08:14:22","date_gmt":"2024-08-24T08:14:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/2024\/08\/24\/vinatta\/"},"modified":"2024-08-24T08:14:22","modified_gmt":"2024-08-24T08:14:22","slug":"vinatta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/2024\/08\/24\/vinatta\/","title":{"rendered":"Vin\u00e1tta"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00dea\u00f0 er varla ofsagt a\u00f0 g\u00f3\u00f0ir vinir eru hverjum manni nau\u00f0synlegir. S\u00e9rstaklega \u00e1 \u00feetta vi\u00f0 um \u00fe\u00e1 sem \u00feora a\u00f0 segja manni til syndanna \u00feegar vi\u00f0 \u00e1.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9g hef veri\u00f0 heppinn, \u00fev\u00ed \u00e9g \u00e1 fj\u00f6lmarga vini og hika sumir \u00feeirra ekki vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 segja m\u00e9r l\u00f6st \u00e1 sko\u00f0unum m\u00ednum og h\u00e1ttsemi og gefa m\u00e9r \u00fev\u00ed tilefni til a\u00f0 b\u00e6ta mig. Til d\u00e6mis er \u00e9g oft of or\u00f0hvass og tel \u00fea\u00f0 stundum fela \u00ed s\u00e9r hreinskilni sem \u00fej\u00f3nar \u00fe\u00f6rfum \u00feeirra sem um er r\u00e6tt. En \u00fe\u00e1 kemur stundum til \u00feess a\u00f0 g\u00f3\u00f0ur vinur segir mig hafa gengi\u00f0 of langt; lengra en \u00fe\u00f6rf krefji og hafi \u00e9g \u00fe\u00e1 s\u00e6rt \u00feann sem fyrir ver\u00f0ur \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 nokkur \u00fe\u00f6rf hafi veri\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed. S\u00e9 \u00feetta tilfelli\u00f0 \u00fearf \u00e9g stundum a\u00f0 b\u00e6ta r\u00e1\u00f0 mitt og bi\u00f0ja \u00feann sem fyrir hefur or\u00f0i\u00f0 afs\u00f6kunar \u00e1 framkomu minni.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00f6nn vin\u00e1tta \u00fej\u00f3nar ekki alltaf \u00feeim tilgangi a\u00f0 samsinna vininum \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed sem hann hefur sagt e\u00f0a l\u00e1ti\u00f0 fr\u00e1 s\u00e9r fara, eins og svo margir gera. \u00c1 stundum getur sl\u00edkur stu\u00f0ningur samt veri\u00f0 styrkur fyrir \u00feann sem \u00ed hlut \u00e1. S\u00f6nn vin\u00e1tta felst hins vegar ekki \u00ed a\u00f0 taka jafnan undir sj\u00f3narmi\u00f0 vinarins. \u00dea\u00f0 er oftast misskilningur. Ver\u00f0m\u00e6tasti vinurinn er s\u00e1 sem segir manni l\u00f6st \u00e1 framg\u00f6ngu manns.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00cd reynd m\u00e1 segja a\u00f0 sj\u00e1lft l\u00fd\u00f0r\u00e6\u00f0i\u00f0 feli \u00ed s\u00e9r \u00fe\u00e1 skipan a\u00f0 mismunandi sj\u00f3narmi\u00f0 manna s\u00e9u ekki bara e\u00f0lileg heldur einnig \u00e6skileg. \u00deeir sem eru \u00f3samm\u00e1la um eitthvert m\u00e1lefni skiptist \u00fe\u00e1 \u00e1 sko\u00f0unum me\u00f0 fri\u00f0s\u00e6lum h\u00e6tti og freista \u00feess \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 hafa uppbyggileg \u00e1hrif \u00e1 hinn. Segja m\u00e1 a\u00f0 sl\u00edkt feli oftast \u00ed s\u00e9r umbur\u00f0arlyndi og sanngirni sem tilheyrir sannri vin\u00e1ttu.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Margir eiga hins vegar erfitt me\u00f0 a\u00f0 fylgja \u00feessum vi\u00f0horfum. \u00deeir forher\u00f0ast \u00fe\u00e1 oft \u00ed meiningu sinni og eru \u00feess ekki f\u00fasir a\u00f0 slaka \u00e1 \u00fe\u00f3 a\u00f0 \u00feeim s\u00e9 s\u00fdnt fram \u00e1 veilur \u00ed hugsunum s\u00ednum og \u00e1lyktunum. Margir minna bestu vina gegnum t\u00ed\u00f0ina hafa veri\u00f0 menn sem eru kunnir af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vera \u00e1 \u00f6ndver\u00f0um mei\u00f0i vi\u00f0 mig \u00ed afst\u00f6\u00f0u til \u00fej\u00f3\u00f0f\u00e9lagsm\u00e1la \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 sl\u00edk vi\u00f0horf hafi spillt vin\u00e1ttu \u00feeirra vi\u00f0 mig. \u00deeir hafa \u00fe\u00e1 haft yfir \u00feeirri skaph\u00f6fn a\u00f0 r\u00e1\u00f0a a\u00f0 geta bent m\u00e9r, sj\u00e1lfumgl\u00f6\u00f0um manninum, \u00e1 a\u00f0 \u00e9g hafi fari\u00f0 villur vegar og \u00fe\u00e1 oft s\u00fdnt \u00f6\u00f0rum \u00f3bilgirni. Fyrir sl\u00edkar \u00e1bendingar er \u00e9g \u00feakkl\u00e1tur, \u00fe\u00f3 a\u00f0 stundum geti reynst erfitt a\u00f0 fara eftir \u00feeim.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Svo eru l\u00edka \u00feeir sem taka \u00e1 \u00f3samlyndi vi\u00f0 a\u00f0ra me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 for\u00f0ast samneyti vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 og h\u00e6tta jafnvel tala vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1. Stundum getur \u00fea\u00f0 veri\u00f0 vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00feeir vita ekki hvernig \u00feeir eigi a\u00f0 r\u00f6ksty\u00f0ja s\u00edn \u00f6ndver\u00f0u sj\u00f3narmi\u00f0 og \u00fe\u00e1 s\u00e9 \u00fe\u00f6gn og samskiptaleysi besta lausnin. Sl\u00edka h\u00e1ttsemi \u00e6ttu allir a\u00f0 for\u00f0ast.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

J\u00f3n Steinar Gunnlaugsson l\u00f6gma\u00f0ur<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00dea\u00f0 er varla ofsagt a\u00f0 g\u00f3\u00f0ir vinir eru hverjum manni nau\u00f0synlegir. S\u00e9rstaklega \u00e1 \u00feetta vi\u00f0 um \u00fe\u00e1 sem \u00feora a\u00f0 segja manni til syndanna \u00feegar vi\u00f0 \u00e1. \u00c9g hef veri\u00f0 heppinn, \u00fev\u00ed \u00e9g \u00e1 fj\u00f6lmarga vini og hika sumir \u00feeirra ekki vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 segja m\u00e9r l\u00f6st \u00e1 sko\u00f0unum m\u00ednum og h\u00e1ttsemi og gefa m\u00e9r \u00fev\u00ed […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-574","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/574","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=574"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/574\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=574"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=574"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=574"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}