{"id":463,"date":"2021-11-23T10:19:04","date_gmt":"2021-11-23T10:19:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/2021\/11\/23\/ofgalaust\/"},"modified":"2025-05-26T10:33:22","modified_gmt":"2025-05-26T10:33:22","slug":"ofgalaust","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jonsteinar.is\/index.php\/2021\/11\/23\/ofgalaust\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00d6fgalaust"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00c1 nets\u00ed\u00f0u V\u00edsis \u00ed g\u00e6r er birt opi\u00f0 br\u00e9f til m\u00edn \u00ed tilefni af litlum pistli sem \u00e9g f\u00e9kk birtan \u00ed Morgunbla\u00f0inu 18. n\u00f3vember. Sendendur br\u00e9fsins eru sex konur sem vilja kenna sig vi\u00f0 \u00f6fgar. M\u00e9r finnst a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r \u00e6ttu ekki a\u00f0 gera \u00fea\u00f0, enda f\u00e6 \u00e9g ekki betur s\u00e9\u00f0 en sj\u00f3narmi\u00f0 \u00feeirra s\u00e9u a\u00f0 m\u00f6rgu leyti \u00f6fgalaus, \u00fe\u00f3 a\u00f0 m\u00e9r s\u00e9 gert rangt til og \u00e6tla\u00f0ar meiningar sem \u00e9g kannast ekki vi\u00f0 og hef aldrei bori\u00f0 fram. R\u00e9tt er a\u00f0 hafa nokkur or\u00f0 um \u00feetta.<\/span><\/p>\n

Grein m\u00edn haf\u00f0i inni a\u00f0 halda hvatningu til \u00feeirra sem \u00fatsettir eru fyrir h\u00e6ttu \u00e1 a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a beittir kynfer\u00f0isofbeldi sem og hinna sem g\u00e6tu or\u00f0i\u00f0 ofbeldismenn. Var \u00feessu f\u00f3lki bent \u00e1 a\u00f0 gera fyrirbyggjandi r\u00e1\u00f0stafanir til a\u00f0 koma \u00ed veg fyrir brotin e\u00f0a a\u00f0 minnsta kosti a\u00f0 f\u00e6kka \u00feeim, \u00fev\u00ed kannski getum vi\u00f0 aldrei komi\u00f0 \u00ed veg fyrir a\u00f0 \u00feau ver\u00f0i framin. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9g kann ekki a\u00f0 v\u00edsa til v\u00edsindalegra kannana m\u00e1li m\u00ednu til stu\u00f0nings, en \u00e9g er samt sannf\u00e6r\u00f0ur um a\u00f0 \u00feorri kynfer\u00f0isbrota er framinn af drukknum ofbeldism\u00f6nnum \u00e1 drukknum f\u00f3rnarl\u00f6mbum \u00feeirra. Stundum er \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0a til a\u00f0 \u00e6tla a\u00f0 s\u00e1 sem ofbeldinu beitir, myndi ekki gera \u00fea\u00f0 ef hann v\u00e6ri ekki undir \u00e1hrifum v\u00edmugjafa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Brotin eru yfirleitt ekki framin \u00e1 veitingah\u00fasum e\u00f0a \u00fati \u00e1 g\u00f6tu. \u00deau eru m\u00f6rg framin \u00ed heimah\u00fasum, eftir a\u00f0 ofbeldismanninum hefur tekist a\u00f0 lokka f\u00f3rnarlambi\u00f0 me\u00f0 s\u00e9r \u00feanga\u00f0. Stundum hefur hann a\u00f0 s\u00f6gn l\u00edka blanda\u00f0 \u00f3lyfjan \u00ed drykki brota\u00feolans til a\u00f0 deyfa hann og draga \u00far afli hans til andst\u00f6\u00f0u. \u00deetta er au\u00f0vita\u00f0 skelfilegt og vi\u00f0 \u00e6ttum \u00f6ll a\u00f0 sameinast \u00ed bar\u00e1ttu gegn \u00feessu framfer\u00f0i me\u00f0 e\u00f0a \u00e1n \u00f6fga. Ofbeldi innan fj\u00f6lskyldna er erfi\u00f0ara vi\u00f0fangs, \u00fev\u00ed \u00fear hafa hrottarnir oft eins konar yfirr\u00e1\u00f0 yfir f\u00f3rnarl\u00f6mbum s\u00ednum. Samt hlj\u00f3tum vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 leita lei\u00f0a til a\u00f0 draga \u00far heimilisofbeldinu.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00dea\u00f0 er au\u00f0vita\u00f0 gr\u00f3fur \u00fat\u00farsn\u00faningur \u00far or\u00f0um m\u00ednu a\u00f0 telja mig vilja gera f\u00f3rnarl\u00f6mbin \u00e1byrg fyrir brotunum, sem \u00feau hafa m\u00e1tt \u00feola. \u00dea\u00f0 er satt a\u00f0 segja fur\u00f0ulegt a\u00f0 sj\u00e1 \u00e1byrgar \u00f6fgakonur gera \u00feessu sk\u00f3na. Fyrir m\u00e9r vakti a\u00f0eins a\u00f0 reyna a\u00f0 f\u00e6kka \u00feessum alvarlegu brotum, \u00fe\u00f3 a\u00f0 erfitt s\u00e9 a\u00f0 finna lei\u00f0ir sem virka \u00ed \u00fe\u00e1 \u00e1tt.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00deegar \u00e1litam\u00e1l er uppi er oft gagnlegt a\u00f0 stilla upp \u00f6fgad\u00e6mi, til a\u00f0 \u00e1tta sig \u00e1
\ngrundvallaratri\u00f0unum. Segjum til a\u00f0 mynda a\u00f0 konur stundu\u00f0u \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 innbyr\u00f0a
\nsj\u00e1lfviljugar, \u00e1\u00f0ur en \u00fe\u00e6r f\u00e6ru \u00fat \u00e1 skemmta s\u00e9r, lyfin sem ofbeldismenn nota til a\u00f0 koma vilja s\u00ednum fram vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r. V\u00e6ri ekki vi\u00f0 h\u00e6fi a\u00f0 hvetja konur til \u00feess a\u00f0 <\/span>h\u00e6tta \u00fev\u00ed, svo \u00fe\u00e6r v\u00e6ru ekki varnar- og me\u00f0vitundarlausar \u00e1 skemmtist\u00f6\u00f0um
\nborgarinnar? V\u00e6ri s\u00fa hvatning fallin til \u00feess a\u00f0 varpa \u00e1byrg\u00f0 kvenna \u00e1 \u00feeim
\ngl\u00e6pum sem \u00fe\u00e6r yr\u00f0u fyrir \u00e1 \u00fe\u00e6r sj\u00e1lfar? Nei, \u00fev\u00ed jafnvel \u00fe\u00e1 b\u00e6ru \u00feolendur enga
\n\u00e1byrg\u00f0 \u00e1 verkna\u00f0i gerendanna, \u00fe\u00f3tt draga hef\u00f0i m\u00e1tt \u00far l\u00edkum \u00e1 brotunum.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9g er samm\u00e1la \u00f6fgakonum um a\u00f0 hvorki karlar n\u00e9 konur eigi a\u00f0 fremja ofbeldisbrot \u00e1 \u00f6\u00f0ru f\u00f3lki. Best v\u00e6ri ef unnt yr\u00f0i a\u00f0 uppr\u00e6ta \u00feau me\u00f0 \u00f6llu en \u00fev\u00ed mi\u00f0ur er ekki sj\u00e1anlegt a\u00f0 sl\u00edkt s\u00e9 h\u00e6gt. Grein m\u00edn var skrifu\u00f0 \u00ed \u00feeim tilgangi a\u00f0 reyna a\u00f0 f\u00e6kka sl\u00edkum brotum. \u00c1byrg\u00f0 \u00e1 ofbeldinu hv\u00edlir \u00e1 brotamanni en ekki \u00f6\u00f0rum. Me\u00f0 vinsemd beini \u00e9g \u00fev\u00ed til ykkar a\u00f0 \u00e6tla m\u00e9r ekki sko\u00f0anir \u00ed a\u00f0ra \u00e1tt. \u00c1standi\u00f0 \u00ed \u00feessum m\u00e1lum er hins vegar kl\u00e1rlega \u00feannig a\u00f0 \u00e9g hvet st\u00falkur, sem m\u00e9r \u00feykir v\u00e6nt um, a\u00f0 hafa varann \u00e1 s\u00e9r \u00ed umgengni vi\u00f0 karlmenn sem \u00fe\u00e6r eru kannski a\u00f0 hitta \u00ed fyrsta sinn \u00e1 skemmtista\u00f0. \u00c9g hika ekki vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 benda \u00feeim \u00e1 a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r geti stundum beitt a\u00f0fer\u00f0um sem draga \u00far l\u00edkum \u00e1 a\u00f0 broti\u00f0 ver\u00f0i \u00e1 \u00feeim, m.a. me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 sker\u00f0a ekki d\u00f3mgreind s\u00edna me\u00f0 neyslu v\u00edmugjafa. Og \u00e9g mun halda \u00fev\u00ed \u00e1fram. Ver\u00f0i \u00fe\u00e6r hins vegar fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 broti\u00f0 s\u00e9 \u00e1 \u00feeim, mun \u00e9g gera \u00fea\u00f0 sem \u00ed m\u00ednu valdi stendur til a\u00f0 hj\u00e1lpa \u00feeim a\u00f0 f\u00e1st vi\u00f0 eftirk\u00f6stin m.a. me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 br\u00fdna fyrir \u00feeim a\u00f0 \u00e1byrg\u00f0in og sk\u00f6mmin s\u00e9 ekki \u00feeirra, heldur eing\u00f6ngu brotamannsins. Og \u00fea\u00f0 eins \u00fe\u00f3 a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r hafi veri\u00f0 drukknar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver\u00f0i grein m\u00edn til \u00feess a\u00f0 for\u00f0a einni nau\u00f0gun yr\u00f0i \u00e9g s\u00e1ttur. En \u00feetta munum vi\u00f0 aldrei f\u00e1 a\u00f0 vita, hvorki \u00e9g n\u00e9 \u00f6fgakonurnar. Vi\u00f0 skulum samt taka h\u00f6ndum saman um a\u00f0 gera \u00fea\u00f0 sem vi\u00f0 getum til a\u00f0 f\u00e6kka ofbeldisbrotum. Sumir telja \u00fea\u00f0 stundum geta or\u00f0i\u00f0 m\u00e1lsta\u00f0 til framdr\u00e1ttar a\u00f0 b\u00faa til andst\u00e6\u00f0ing jafnvel me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 skr\u00f6kva \u00e1 hann s\u00f6kum. \u00dea\u00f0 er misskilningur hj\u00e1 ykkur ef \u00fei\u00f0 haldi\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00feessi a\u00f0fer\u00f0 s\u00e9 v\u00e6nleg gagnvart m\u00e9r. \u00c9g hef sk\u00f6mm \u00e1 ofbeldism\u00f6nnum og er miklu fremur samherji ykkar en fjandma\u00f0ur.<\/span><\/p>\n

J\u00f3n Steinar Gunnlaugsson l\u00f6gma\u00f0ur<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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